Wonder if I am actually loved? Wonder if I can truly be loved - being who I am? The thought does not depend on whether one is worthy or not - it is simply a common fear in humanity. Yet the sense of not being good enough has way too favorable conditions if your own biological relatives have abandoned you. For too many of the girls this is their daily reality.
We are more than happy to create a family, to disprove the girls´ conviction; be the family to tell them who they are in Christ: that they are loved; that they worthy. When Ruby had been in the States for an extended period of time, she talked excitedly about new friends, old friends, new gadgets, and fun experiences. When she calmed down about the wonders of the States and was asked what her favorite part about Honduras was, she didn´t hesitate: “My family - they love me for who I am.” It is a joy seeing how God works through Allison´s family to show the girls that they are loved. Not only Ruby, but every single girl at EFP is loved for exactly who she is by her Mom, Allison, by her sisters, and by staff and volunteers supporting EFP.
Even so, we still see the fear of not being wholly loved to a greater or lesser degree in the girls. They may become distant, moody, or hide themselves in fear of being intimately known. We are all entirely dependent on the Father of love to teach us to be loved, and to love others.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” (1 John 4;18)
The Father is Love. He is the one, who enters our lives and the girls´ lives to perfect us in love and remove all fear. He is the one who can overcome past rejection and abandonment. Where He enters there is no fear, because He perfects us in love; perfects the girls in love.
There is nothing that matters more than for the girls to know Him and be transformed by His love. Will you pray with us,
- that He will break down the fear of rejection and the fear of being unworthy, so every one of the girls will know His love.
- that He will guide and teach Allison and every person surrounding the girls to show our love for them in a way that will make them recognize it.
- that the Father´s love is what runs all of EFP.
“Love (...) bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” (1 Cor 13;7-8)